CONFLICT OR NOT CONFLICT?
CHECK ON THE SYMPTOMS

Difficulty managing stress, irritability, nervousness
Detachment or withdrawal from others (physical and/or emotional)
Emotional blunting (no joy, no sadness) or constant overflow of emotions
« Everything is fine » attitude, there is no problem, taking the pain, concealing, hiding from what you are experiencing or have experienced, from what you are thinking or feeling
Careless or self-destructive behavior
Emotional or product dependence
Intense anger that occurs frequently or lasts for a long time
Avoiding painful thoughts or feelings about what you are experiencing, have experienced or are afraid of experiencing
Avoiding elements (people, places, conversations, activities, objects…) that arouse memories, thoughts or feelings similar to what you have experienced or are experiencing
Symptomatizing, e.g. back pain, sleep disorders, skin problems, but also chronic, autoimmune, inflammatory, viral diseases…
Continued feeling of intense fatigue, decreased interest in participating in activities that are important to you
Hypervigilance, sleep disorders
Difficulty concentrating, carrying out medium-term projects, being a support for others

Continued presence of negative emotions, such as fear, horror, anger, guilt or shame
Difficulty feeling pleasure, avoiding situations of celebration, joy, inability to experience happiness, satisfaction or affectionate feelings
Not knowing what you are feeling anymore: no longer knowing what is “normal” and what is not; no longer trusting your feelings
Feeling trapped, not free to act, not in control of your life, that things are getting out of hand
Feeling that you are never right, that others are always wrong or that you yourself are always in the wrong
Intense or prolonged psychological distress upon exposure to internal or external cues evoking or resembling an aspect of the traumatic event
Persistent or exaggerated negative beliefs or expectations about oneself, others, or the world (for example, “I’m bad”, “You can’t trust anyone”, “The world is extremely dangerous”)
Feeling that many things from the outside are intrusive

Not being able to get out of what you are currently going through, that the scenario will repeat itself endlessly
Not finding a trusted person, outside help to change the situation
Losing control over what you might be subjected to from a third party
Losing control over what you could do to yourself (scarifications, suicidal ideas…) or to a third party (hitting, threatening, forcing…)
Not being able to protect yourself or a person for whom you are responsible from your own actions or those of a third party
Being surprised or overwhelmed by a situation
Painful memories that are recurrent, involuntary, and invasive / flashbacks come to the surface
Fearing the repetition of a situation you have experienced for yourself or for someone else
Fearing the repetition of a situation you have experienced in reality or in your dreams
Be re-exposed to a similar or identical situation

Being able to live a peaceful personal, professional and social life again
Being able to surprise oneself in dealing with a difficult situation, to gain confidence and self-esteem
Resolving a conflict situation and moving on to a new chapter
Being able to assert oneself in life in a positive way
Being able to protect oneself and/or others from re-experiencing a situation of conflict or violence
Being able to manage or experience the situation in a positive way (if you were to experience a situation similar or identical to something you have already experienced)
Being able to face and soothe painful recurrent, involuntary, and invasive memories / flashbacks